Thoughts..

We, as humans always attach meanings to other people, to situations, to life and to circumstances that happen to us or around us.
We have emotions which makes sense that people assign value and importance to everything.
It makes us feel like we are living, which is good.

Now, I won’t contradict this but what if… let’s say for 24-hours we do not attach ourselves to anything. That every aspects of our lives; our relationship to our partner, our career, studies, and other roles.. they are just stages, plays that we are performing.
And, the real big thing that matters is us.
Our inner peace, our mind, our self love and happiness.

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It's Time To Really Wake Up & Live

Two-months back, I got a big break for my career – a new responsibility.
It was awesome; it was what I wanted, a new challenge so that I could push myself to being limitless.

So, I told myself that I would give my everything to learning this new role and be awesome in it..my everything…

I indulged myself into trainings and shadowing and learning everything about my new responsibilities. I was always on stress & tension because I didn’t want to screw things up. For two whole months, my work became my everything. I stopped doing my other things like writing, going on adventures; you know things that actually bring you inner happiness.
It was like this because I thought that if I dedicated my mind to something else other than this new role, this would disrupt my focus and decrease my productivity.
Eventually, as time passed by, my work took over my mind and my creative side got blocked. I felt zero connection with the universe and like my intuition stopped talking to me.
So, basically it was like my left side of my brain took over my mind and my right side got lost.
But, I said, it’s fine, the creativity will come back. This new responsibility is much more important than anything.

I kicked ass at work, I worked hard, I worked smart, for very long hours.
And, I proved myself & to everyone that it was not a bad decision to take me for this new role.

I felt good about myself that I have achieved this…for like 5 minutes. Then, I felt like complete crap.

Yups, I felt like shit ๐Ÿ™‚

Why? Because looking back over those two-months, I saw myself grinding and working my ass off to impress the boss and not let anyone say that I wasn’t good enough for the role; which I accomplished.
But, I also lost weight because I was always skipping lunch to get the work done; I felt physically & mentally tired; I became to a point that I no longer wanted to look at my computer screen and I was waiting to the weekend to sleep..
Yeah… I became like the rest of the world.. zombies.. I had stopped living, I was only EXISTING.

Sure, I got more bucks – awesome.. getting more money is always awesome.. but, for what ?

For Fuck’s sake.. for what?

Yayyy.. I got more bucks and more responsibilities at work, but I was no longer inline with the vibration of the universe. I no longer loved myself.

That sucks.. like real bad..

I looked at some of my colleagues; when I first started working, I said – Nopes, am not gonna end up like them, people who work for the weekends. But, I did become like them..

And, all of a sudden, I didn’t like who I’ve become.. That’s not good at all..

We have to balance our life.. Work.. Career.. Money.. it’s awesome to have those in life.. But, the other aspects of our life are important too.. Health, experiences, connection, friendship, love..
What’s the use of having a little more money in life if we don’t have life experiences? If we do not have someone real to come back home to? Or, simply we neglected our health and now, we look like crap?

It’s not worth it.. ๐Ÿ™‚

We can’t just give Only ONE aspect of our life our everything.
We have to give & receive in all aspects of our life..

Don’t say, let me work a lot this year, then next year when I have so much of money, then I’ll start living life like I want.. How do you know you gonna live till next year?

Start balancing.. Start to celebrate all your little wins, and not wait for the big ones to pop up the champagne… Go on that nature walk.. Stop saying “I have to work tonight, I’ll go out with my friends next week” and then, you never get the time & energy to actually go out.

It’s time to stop existing & really Liveย 

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Naked, Flawed and Beautiful

I do not send out friend requests often. But there is this particular person who caught my eye and I clicked on the rectangular green button on his Facebook profile. Now, for me to do that meant that this person was really impressive; it was not a cute profile picture or popularity. Still, when he immediately accepted and messaged me, I became all pretentious, almost rude.

โ€œDo you always message people who send you friend requests to say โ€˜thank youโ€™? I asked with a sassy smiley. โ€œNo, I just wanted to start the conversation with you. Do we know each other?โ€ he asked. โ€œ[โ€ฆ] Idk. Am I the one who added you?โ€ I retorted. Now, Iโ€™ve always had a little of attitude, I have never been into sugar-coating things but this sassiness of mine hid some kind of insecurity. I did not want to tell him straightaway that heโ€™d impressed me. I was afraid to be truthful. To beโ€ฆ vulnerable.

And this is so weird, I thought to myself. Lately, Iโ€™ve been working on putting my shield down. To just be out there. To be who I am. And I found that it was okay. It was okay to be interviewed for the post of a web content writer and journalist and to say that I have social anxiety, that I sometimes find it hard to interact with people. That wasnโ€™t what google had taught me about job interviews. Google had asked me to look confident, to only focus on my strengths. I did not. And it wasย okay. It was okay when, after I got that job, I sometimes had moments of panic, moments during which I would get into my shell. Yes my boss saw my hand shaking when I interviewed a person for the first time and it was okay. The other day a client we write advertorials for mentioned being a little more careful when talking to me because she knows I might get anxious. She did not mean it in a bad way; she knows how I am, she gets it, itโ€™s no big deal (as long as I write good articles for them) and she tries to help. What a relief!

What a relief to be out there and letting people see me. And the thing with anxiety is that once you just act and let go of the โ€˜what ifโ€™, it becomes so much easier. Weโ€™re all fighting little battles every day, why make our burdens even heavier with pretension? If you put down the armor, if you do not even fight who will defeat you? I learnt to strip away my pretension. Are you nervous? โ€œYesโ€, I reply. โ€˜Fake it till you make itโ€™ might work for others, not for me. I opt for truthfulness. With myself. With others. It is hard to put away the armor, to strip away the pretense. It is hard to be naked. They see it all. They see the beautiful skin but they also see the bruises. But that is you. It is not about valuing the flaws, about complaining about them or be a victim because of them. But it isnโ€™t about hating them either. They are your flaws; you are imperfect; it is okay.

If I can do it in a job interview and in my everyday life why can I tell a guy that he impressed me? It is trivial but it matters. Go out there, be yourself. Get naked, show your flaws, show your bruises. Free; youโ€™ll feel free. And fearless. Do it for the big things, do it for the trivial things. Let go of the politically correct. Do not waste time to think of something impressive to say. Just say the truth. Just say what you feel. Donโ€™t put an armor around yourself, donโ€™t put an armor around your feelings. Undo the corset of pretense. Breathe. Donโ€™t seek to impress. Just be real. And you might be surprised. Others might strip too and you will see that they are as bruised, as flawed as you. Naked, flawed and beautiful. Now will you please excuse me, I need to go message a guy and tell him that yes, I did send him a friend request, that I do admire the way he stands up for causes and strives for his passion.

Written by Luckshmee Jeawon ๐Ÿ™‚ย 

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Top Best Quotes From Harvey Specter that Will Motivate You

For Gabriel Macht…

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I have to admit something..

Harvey is My Man.. and, will always be

If you don’t know Harvey – you just lost 80% of your life.

You CANNOT not know Harvey. He’s that badass freaking awesome lawyer who works for Pearson Specter Litt in the most exciting city on earth ~ New York.

When confronted with shit from life – Say “What Would Harvey Do” ย 

“Now when I got here, I dominated. They thought I worked 100 hours a day. Now, no matter what time I get in, nobody questions my ability to get the job done. Get it through your head. First impressions last. You start behind the eight ball, youโ€™ll never get in front.”

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“What are your choices when someone holds a gun to your head? You do what they say or they shoot you, right? Wrong! You take the gun. You pull out a bigger gun or you call their bluff or you do one of another 146 other things.”

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“Ever loved someone so much, you would do anything for them? Yeah, well make that someone yourself and do whatever the hell you want.”

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“Thatโ€™s the difference between you and me. You wanna lose small, I wanna win big.”

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“Don’t play the Case. Play the Man”

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“Sometimes good guys gotta do bad things to make the bad guys pay.”

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Harvey can be a real motivator if you know how & when to apply his words.

And, then…. there’s Donna…
but,that’s for another blog post :’)

#Suits #Harvey #Specter

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