Thoughts. Thoughts. Thoughts.

I have come across so many people who hate their job, who complain every single day of their life every morning.
“I hate Mondays!” , “I don’t want to wake up to go to work” , “Hope the public holidays fall on weekdays” , “Thank God it’s Friday-no work for two days!”

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I have always questioned this; why is it that no one ever say: “I love my job”
We work for 5 days per week, some people even 6 days.
We spend 40-45 hours of our life in our workplace, so how can we live a life where most of the hours are spent in “no-happiness way”?

That always intrigued me and people always told me, “you’ll understand when you start working”
So, they mean that when I start working, my life will be miserable?

I have meant maybe one to five people in this country who adored their job.
Just imagine! In 100%, only 1-5% loved their job.

How to explain this? Without saying, I wanted to be among those 5% !

So, I did my research. I asked those 5%, what were their secrets? I mean, they had the same characteristics as those other 95% ; they rarely sleep, sometimes they don’t have time to eat, the work pressure, stress and deadlines were present in their work life too. So, how come they were happy? How come they never complained about going to their job every morning?

Their answers were more or less the same:
“I love what am doing” , “This is what I always wanted to be” , “I am living my dream career”.

And, I was like, “That’s it? This is the key to a happy life?”

Vishen Lakhiani, the Founder of MindValley Academy, preaches that our society has established rules in people’s mind from decades. Rules like, we have to go to college, choose the subjects, make a list of all the jobs that pay well and learn something which will help to get those jobs.

Let me tell you a little story: 
My cousin, let’s call him Max. Max loves Art, since childhood. He has always dreamed of becoming a famous, renowned artist. Since drawing is his passion, this has motivates him to research, learn, and improve himself in the most tiniest details. Max has become really good in Art. I have seen his work, it’s unbelievable! 
Max is in college and he is not really good academically. He hates Maths. But since it’s the rule of the society, Max has to learn Mathematics whether he likes it or not. Max wished that he could spend his days improvising himself on Art only, instead of trying to learn something which he hates. 

Results came out and Max got the highest marks in Art, but he failed in Maths. Max doesn’t care about his other grades. He has got the grade he needed to join a professional Art Institute. Happy Max goes and share his career dreams with his family. 
Seeing his failure in Mathematics, his parents gave him a good scolding but Max insists that he has the motivation & talent to become an artist. 
His parents rebuked him, saying that artists don’t make money! 
The society laughed at him, saying that he is lazy, he doesn’t like to study & that’s why he draws!

Max’s parents say that they are ashamed of him. They put him in a computer-course & warned him to remove this stupid idea of becoming an artist. 
The “rules” of the society killed his creativity. Killed his dream. 

Today, Max works as an IT officer. Max has learned computing. He gets good money. His parents are happy. The society labelled him from “lazy” to “hard working”. 
But is Max happy? 
Max hates his job. He complains every single day of his life. He loves Fridays & hates Mondays! 

So, is it because of the rules of society that some people are frustrated and unhappy in their job? Sure, there are other reasons.

But, how many people die at 25 & aren’t buried until they are 75?
Maybe if Max continued his dream, he would have become the most famous & rich artist and change the “rule” that artists don’t make money enough.

Some people don’t even know what they love doing. I didn’t know what I wanted to become till I was 20!

A lack of guidance? Nopes!
I had lots of guidance from teachers, family, parents, society. Some told me to be an Accountant, others be a Doctor. Some would say Banking! Why? Because banks make lots of money!
But nobody asked, “What do you love?” or “Just do what you love & makes you happy”

Thoughts. Thoughts. Thoughts.

Vishen Lakhiani said that, if you wanna know what you love, ask yourself just 3 questions.

  • What do you want to experience in life? ( e.g Travel, Health, Love, Car, House, Happiness)
  • How do you want to grow? ( What do you want to learn- this is related to your career, academically, spiritually)
  • What do you want to contribute to the society? (Anything to help people selflessly)

And as you will let it flow by responding to those questions, you are going to find your answers.

“Change your thoughts. So that when people ask you every morning where are you going, you don’t respond by saying ‘I’m going to work’ , but your answer is ‘I’m going to live a dream of mine'” ~ Neha Gunnoo

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The Liebster Award!

Yay! My blog has been nominated for the Liebster Award for the first time by Gloria of Jugglingmother.
Here’s her blog:  http://www.jugglingmother.net/

What is a Liebster Award? 

The Liebster Award is conducted by bloggers for new bloggers to gain appreciation and recognition for their work. It’s a great way to connect to many bloggers and build connection with each other. It’s super exciting!

So, I made some research about the award from my side. Turns out that the Liebster Award has some German origins as the word “Liebster” comes from Germany. And, there are some rules that need to be followed.

The Rules

  1. You have to thank the blog that nominated you
  2. You have to answer the questions asked by the blog that nominated you
  3. You have to nominate 11 other new bloggers
  4. You have to set new questions for your nominees

It’s kinda cool since you get to know other bloggers and build awesome relationships with them!
So, the questions that Gloria set up for me are:

  • What country were your born in?

I was born in Mauritius, an amazing tropical island located in the Indian Ocean.

  •  Are you an animal lover?  If so, what kind?

I am a pet lover! I loved every animals, it’s fascinating to see them. My actual pet is a Doggy, named Prince.

  •  Is blogging what you thought it would be?

Indeed, blogging did turn out like I was expected. I blog because I love to do it :’)

  •  How many cars have you owned?

None, and I have the full intention to change that!

  •  What is your favorite dessert?

I would say every single dessert where the name “chocolate” is involved.

  •  How many hours a week do you devote to your blogging?

Blogging is not work for me. It’s not that I need to sit down and blog for that number of hours. I blog when I get inspiration. I blog when I want to do it. I blog when I feel that I need to do it.

When you love doing something, there are no conditions attached to it. You just do it! :’)

  •  Would you rather play a sport or watch one, which sport?

I would say both! I love playing Badminton and watch Football match!

  •  What is a favorite childhood memory?

My favorite childhood memory would be, every single time my brother and I invented and played new games, with our only worry- to reach home in time to not miss Tom & Jerry!

  • Which Social Media is your favorite and why?

Facebook is definitely my favourite social media right now, since Facebook has the largest number of audience and interaction with your audience is much more easier.

Facebook helps to build new relationships and maintains the existing ones.

  •  What is the most dangerous, daredevil activity you have ever tried?

The devil inside me hasn’t awaken yet!

  •  What is the longest job you have ever held?

The time I was doing my internship!

Okay, enough of me now! Here’s the 11 new bloggers I have nominated:

Imani K. Brown                                www.ipukekawaii.com

Joana Lapa                                         Www.jldesignuk.com/blog

Breanna Townsend McKay            www.Bremckay.com

Ryian Louise Hilpisch                      peace-ofpi.blogspot.com

Michelle Baldwin                              www.meeshiesworld.blogspot.com

Michelle Robinson                            Www.moderndaymoguls.WordPress.com

Emma Lenhart                                   www.minimalistamedia.com

Dharak Infotech                                 dharakinfotech.com

Vita Masli                                             www.vitamasli.com

Katie Steinberg                                   www.medusawasframed.com

Steph Atkins                                         www.stephlouise.co.uk

Now, Nominees, get ready for your questions!

  • Why did you start your blog?
  • What inspires you the most? 
  • What is your favourite movie of all time?
  • If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go and why? 
  • Your reaction when you heard you were nominated for the Liebster Award? 
  • How do you practice Self-Love? 
  • What is the one biggest challenge for your blog right now? 
  • Red or white wine? Why? 
  • What actor would you choose you to play you in a movie or your real life? 
  • What is your dream job? 
  • Describe your Future Self for me! (Character & personality wise) 

Congratulations to all the Nominees and to me, also!

Love You all
xxo

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The Social Scene with JZ Podcast

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Today on social scene with JZ,  we have the amazing CEO of Kinnectpay, Joel Usher who set up a Social Networking site which allows people to get paid for bringing referrals to the website.
Kinnectpay is everything from social networking to social events. Members get paid for $1 for each of their referral.

“Kinetic Energy” inspired Joel and his partner to come up with the brand name of Kinnectpay.

Joel has three principles for to achieve the goals of Kinnectpay:

  1. There is nothing that is impossible
  2. There is always a better way to do business
  3. The more you give, the more you receive

Kinnectpay is going to be launched next month in February, so save up the date!

You can check out the podcast that features Joel Usher on : http://www.jzsocialenterprises.com/#!CEO-of-Kinnectpay-Joel-Usher/cmbz/569f99290cf2f3c826df2328

 

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How to better understand your partner?

Need better understanding? Maybe the lessons that I learnt through my experiences will help:

  1. Accept the fact that your partner is a different person

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You may have some common hobbies or common things, but everybody is unique and each of us has a different personality. People often mistake the fact that their partner should behave the same like them. Respect your partner’s unique habits and love them for who they are.

2. Make your partner your best friend

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As the most famous phrase goes “Marry your best friend” and if your partner is not your best friend, make him/her your best friend. Don’t behave differently with friends and your partner. Show the real you, be crazy with him/her. Behave the same way as you would with your best buddies.

3. Be sure to have good communication with your partner

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Communicating with your partner is maybe one of the most important aspect in a relationship. When you interact, make sure that you’re not complaining or putting blames. And, yes make your interactions regular, not an event.

 

4. Learn to let go of resentment or past fights

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It’s normal for any couple to have some disagreements. But, keeping those little things in heart or keeping score is not a good idea. Maybe your partner had a rough day or woke up on the wrong foot and, talked a bit rudely to you. Later on, your partner apologized for the rude behaviour. Some people have hard time to forgive even the little things. But, staying angry over those little things only create distance in the relationship.

5. Another lesson that I learned is to never have a discussion when you’re angry

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When people gets angry, their brain stop working. This is where things can get ugly. It is important to know when to back off in such situations and resolve the matter when you’ve cooled down.

6. Learn to appreciate the little things

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You got angry because he forgot to call or didn’t bring you out on a date since so many days, but you didn’t notice and appreciate the flowers he got for you back from work or the coffee he made for you in the morning. It’s the little things who count, not the big ones.

7. Stop expecting

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Expectation! Expectation!

Why have so many expectations about your partner or your relationships? Why expect that it’s your partner who has to call you first or to plan the anniversary?

Take the first step yourself or just let your partner know about what you’re expecting on your first anniversary. Sitting there, imagining things to happen, then expecting your partner to fulfil those dreams which you had in your head is not going to work. This is what lead to disappointments in relationships.

8. Accept your partner’s flaws

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Nobody is perfect. Everybody has flaws. Some people hide them, some show it fearlessly to the world.

I love Adam Levine’s lyrics of Locked Away:

“If I showed you my flaws, would you still love me the same?”

You don’t have to love your partner’s flaws, you just have to accept them. Everybody is going to love your good qualities, but your flaws? It takes a real woman and a real man to accept them.

 

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Severus Snape: Tribute

I am a big fan of Harry Potter movies and, it struck me as lightning when I heard that one of the greatest character,  Alan Rickman just died from a battle with cancer. I have no words to express how it touched me to hear such a devastating news. I think the biggest fans of Harry Potter’s movies and books will feel the pain like me.

I have gathered some scenes and moments of Severus Snape, just feel them.

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His Intense Voice

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When he was always here to protect
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The Half-Blood Prince revealed

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His Expressions

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Young Snape
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Maybe, our biggest moment of Snape
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Yes, Always.

Rest In Peace, Alan Rickman.

You’ll always be remembered, as Severus Snape.

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