“If you have a dream, don’t just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it a reality.” ~ Dr Roopleen
It’s Sunday night and you check your social networks and, what do you see?
“Tomorrow is Monday” , “Sunday is over”, “Wish Monday never came” , “Why are you here Monday!” , “I Hate you Monday” , and this goes on with all types of memes and all.
I have grown up seeing almost everybody hating Mondays.
I take Mondays as the start of a new week to keep building my empire.
How do successful people react to Mondays?
They go to sleep early on Sundays.
Friday nights & Saturdays are meant to have fun, relax, meetup with friends and families. And, of course if you had a party during the weekend, it’s going to be difficult to wake up early after having overslept for those 2 days.
Successful people go to sleep early on Sunday nights because they are aware that both their body & mind need rest to be able to tackle a whole week properly.
They don’t hit the snooze button & wake up early.
Waking up isn’t hard. It’s all in your mind that you can’t wake up early. It’s all about waking with the sun!
“The world belongs to those who get up early”
I believe that every successful person has a morning ritual before they set up on the day. It can be a morning walk, jogging or meditation.
They get involved on what’s happening in the world.
Successful people know that there’s another world outside their work. And, after 2 days of rest, it’s time to get back to what is happening on earth.
They know that learning doesn’t stop here. In whatever field they’re, there is always something more to increase your knowledge.
They prioritise their work
Mondays are always like this : A mailbox full of emails, the full work schedule for a week, or even pending works from Friday.
Looking at all these get people’s stressed and increase their pressure and they are probably going to resemble like this:
Successful people prioritise their work. There’s lots of email? No worries, let’s respond to those in urgency and the rest can wait. They make a plan for the whole week of what need to be done first; when are the deadlines, what’s pending? A complete list to get organised!
Trust me – Planning really reduce stress & pressure!
Mondays don’t suck, your mentality does.
Mondays aren’t that bad as all people think. It’s just in your way of thinking.
Change your thoughts & you’ll not view the world in the same way.
Need better understanding? Maybe the lessons that I learnt through my experiences will help:
- Accept the fact that your partner is a different person
You may have some common hobbies or common things, but everybody is unique and each of us has a different personality. People often mistake the fact that their partner should behave the same like them. Respect your partner’s unique habits and love them for who they are.
2. Make your partner your best friend
As the most famous phrase goes “Marry your best friend” and if your partner is not your best friend, make him/her your best friend. Don’t behave differently with friends and your partner. Show the real you, be crazy with him/her. Behave the same way as you would with your best buddies.
3. Be sure to have good communication with your partner
Communicating with your partner is maybe one of the most important aspect in a relationship. When you interact, make sure that you’re not complaining or putting blames. And, yes make your interactions regular, not an event.
4. Learn to let go of resentment or past fights
It’s normal for any couple to have some disagreements. But, keeping those little things in heart or keeping score is not a good idea. Maybe your partner had a rough day or woke up on the wrong foot and, talked a bit rudely to you. Later on, your partner apologized for the rude behaviour. Some people have hard time to forgive even the little things. But, staying angry over those little things only create distance in the relationship.
5. Another lesson that I learned is to never have a discussion when you’re angry
When people gets angry, their brain stop working. This is where things can get ugly. It is important to know when to back off in such situations and resolve the matter when you’ve cooled down.
6. Learn to appreciate the little things
You got angry because he forgot to call or didn’t bring you out on a date since so many days, but you didn’t notice and appreciate the flowers he got for you back from work or the coffee he made for you in the morning. It’s the little things who count, not the big ones.
7. Stop expecting
Why have so many expectations about your partner or your relationships? Why expect that it’s your partner who has to call you first or to plan the anniversary?
Take the first step yourself or just let your partner know about what you’re expecting on your first anniversary. Sitting there, imagining things to happen, then expecting your partner to fulfil those dreams which you had in your head is not going to work. This is what lead to disappointments in relationships.
8. Accept your partner’s flaws
Nobody is perfect. Everybody has flaws. Some people hide them, some show it fearlessly to the world.
I love Adam Levine’s lyrics of Locked Away:
“If I showed you my flaws, would you still love me the same?”
You don’t have to love your partner’s flaws, you just have to accept them. Everybody is going to love your good qualities, but your flaws? It takes a real woman and a real man to accept them.
2015 been a really important year in my life. It was the year where I had the most difficult situations to dealt with, where I lost many good friends and relationships fell apart but, amidst all of these, at the end of the day, it only taught me lessons of life ; lessons which only made me grow.
- Everything happens for a reason
One of the most used phrases which is actually true. I experienced it this year ; whether good or bad, there’s always a reason why some stuffs are happening. No need to stress yourself out if something bad is happening; most of the time bad stuffs appear because there is a lesson to be learned and to grow.
And, if you’re not getting what you want, believe that the Universe has reserved something better for you.
Funny story; I really wanted a perfect birthday this year but wasn’t getting the dress that I wanted nor the shoes. My birthday month and preparations were going in a wreck and by each passing day, I was feeling more disappointed and less excited. The happiness reduced till I gave up on my perfect birthday.
I kept asking the universe why I am not getting what I want.
When the big-day arrived, I received a priceless gift, something of utmost happiness which I didn’t expect at all. All those disappointments and frustrations of having the “perfect birthday” disappeared.
This is when it clicked me- The universe loves me. I didn’t get what I wanted because the Universe had better awesome plans🌍
2. Letting go is easier than holding on to something which doesn’t bring you happiness
I always feared of letting go, was always holding on things and trying to make them work even if they weren’t bringing me any happiness.
But, what I learnt is that holding on things which doesn’t bring you happiness is useless. letting go is easier than holding on.
You don’t always have to make things work. Sometimes, we just need to let go and trust the universe 🌟
3. Follow your dreams
The society in which we live shapes our behavior and future. From the day I started school, I was taught that we need to get a college degree and work till we retire. That’s what I did.
When I was completing my university degree, I kept asking myself what I was doing. I wasn’t happy inside me. My friends were always working hard to get a job, even if that wasn’t their dreams.
But I couldn’t stay like this. I started searching, listening to inspirational leaders like Deepak Chopra, Vishen Lakhiani and it made me realized that the only way to be happy within me, is to follow my dreams.
It’s natural to have fears about leaving the specific rules of society and follow your dreams. I found out that everything that I’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.
So, go ahead, conquer your fears & live up your dreams! ✨
4. Life is beautiful, we complicate it
Life is wonderful! It’s us who complicates things in life. I learnt that Complaining about your life is not going to get you anywhere, taking actions will.
If you’ve taken a decision about your life, be strong enough to face the consequences associated with that decision ; whether its work, family or relationship. You cant blame or hate life for the decisions that you have taken yourself.
You always have a choice. You always have a solution. Right now, you have Everything that you need to make your life beautiful. You just have to take the leap 💙
5. Fill yourself with positivity
When you start your day on a positive note, your outlook of life changes. It doesn’t have to be big things happening in your life. Wake up, feel the Morning breeze, the chirping of birds, the laughter of your kids. have your coffee outside or take a walk. Feel that positive energy everyday. It really helps.
Happiness comes from within, not from people or material stuffs.
My biggest lesson of 2015 – Self Love!
The biggest relationship you can ever have is with yourself.
You can’t give love to other people unless you are full of love. If you don’t love yourself, you’re going to expect love from other people and when those people don’t meet your expectations, you feel frustrated, disappointed and end up being miserable.
Find time for yourself everyday. Do things that you love. Relaxing in the bathtub? A nice coffee? Playing with your pet? Reading? It could be anything that you love. Make a list of every little things that gives you happiness and just do it!
Self- Love is very important for personal growth. Build a relationship with yourself!❤️
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Wishing you all a very Happy New Year 2016🎉🎉🎉