Confidence; how do you gain it? how do you lose it? And, how come some people have so much of confidence?
Confidence; what are you exactly?
Do we gain trust in ourselves when we have achieved something incredible in our career? Or, do we lose it when someone told us that our outfit looks like crap?
Is it dependant on something or everything?
Oh.. I’ll do that when I have more money..
I’ll do it when I am stable in my life..
I’ll do it when I’ll be at that age..
How many times have you said those phrases and, eventually you never actually do the things that you want and said that you will do?!
We, as humans always attach meanings to other people, to situations, to life and to circumstances that happen to us or around us.
We have emotions which makes sense that people assign value and importance to everything.
It makes us feel like we are living, which is good.
Now, I won’t contradict this but what if… let’s say for 24-hours we do not attach ourselves to anything. That every aspects of our lives; our relationship to our partner, our career, studies, and other roles.. they are just stages, plays that we are performing.
And, the real big thing that matters is us.
Our inner peace, our mind, our self love and happiness.
Success.. What is Success? What is it for you?
Is it how the society has defined it since ages and people have been following this “definition” blindly..?
Is it how the rest of the world sees it and imposes it on us?
Or maybe success is what recruiters tell you – the direction that they steered you in..
“oh.. you know.. when I was your age, I’d take any job that I would get and persevere in it”
That is Success to you?
I beg to differ..
Success is what you want; deep inside.. what is your intuition saying? What’s your passion? What is it that YOU want to do?
You are trying to follow your dream career; but then you keep failing.. and you give up..
Or, people start talking how crazy and silly you are for getting out of the comfort zone.. the safety net.. the secure job!
And, you give up!
Look around you.. How many people are truly happy in their job? How many really.. like fuckingly love their job?
Job? That’s not even the right word..
But, those people will stay in their job. They will never move. Because they are scared. Scared of starting over again. Scared of getting out there; outside the safety net. So,they complain.
So, isn’t it better that you are out there trying and failing; instead of not trying at all like the rest of the world?
Billionaires didn’t become billionaires just like this.
They tried. They failed. They believed. They fucked the society.
They took actions on their dreams. Their goals.
They fucked the society all the time.
And, they worked towards their ambitions.
Not giving up just because the rest of the world called them crazy.
Don’t let anyone define Success for you.
You create your own success; in the way you want.
And, it will happen.
Are you really living?
It’s a simple question.. but, many would pause and think when asked this question..
Some would say yes immediately.. “Of course, am living.. I have a big job at this big company.. Or.. I am going to happy hour this evening to live.. I have this and this..
But, are you really living?
Or, are you just EXISTING?
Do you find happiness in material stuffs ? Do you find joy only when you go out or when you are with your friends?
Are you able to stay alone and feel peaceful? Feel inner happiness? Feel alive without being dependent on anyone and anything?
Do you often say.. I’ll do that when I get a better job.. or take care of my health afterwards.. I’ll be happy when I’ll have enough money.. ?
It’s good to have a vision and future goals.. but, if you forget to be happy in your present and cherish what you have right now; you’ll keep on chasing and chasing happiness..
Don’t let your life becomes a routine 🙂
Don’t be like everyone else
Don’t settle for less that you deserve, that’s what everyone does
Become the best version of yourself!
Learn to be happy with yourself, with your flaws, your body
No matter what people say about you; you know that you’re awesome
and, that’s more than enough
Don’t fall in the society’s trap..
Create your own world.. Your own adventures.. Love.. Live.. like really live..
So – ask yourself this :
Are you really living?